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Posted: Friday, October 3, 2014 10:36 AM


Note the treatment method I recommend below:

The narcissist uses 7 main tools to manipulate.

These are 1-favors, 2-affection, 3-withdrawal, 4-projection, 5-intimidations, 6-violence, 7-extorion (and in exactly this order).

Understanding each is your KEY to success.

1-favors are tokens of loyalty
2-affection is a manipulated emotion
3-withdrawal is taking something back
4-projection is an unconscious transfer of feeling
5-intimidations are persuading by frightening
6-violence is force
7-extorion or blackmail use of secrets to compel

Have you ever ask yourself…this question.

“Why did I attract this person into my life?”

I know your time is valuable, so I’ll get straight to the point:

The answer is surprisingly simple…and has everything to do with YOU and your SUBCONSCIOUS MIND.

More on the subconscious by clicking the link below…

Your subconscious mind has what are called “unconscious polarized issues” that are “Anchor beliefs” coming from your childhood.

These subconscious ‘programs’ and your husband/partner’s Narcissism are like magnets attracting each other...

...And strangely enough...BY resolving these SUBCONSCIOUS programs…it is exactly what is needed to ‘heal’ your self, possibly your partner and overcome your current relationship issues…

Understand this and you are on the road to Personal Freedom.


• My worthiness feelings about myself stem from receiving approval from someone else
• Other people’s struggles affect my tranquility
• My mental attention focuses on solving others problems/relieving others pain
• My good feelings (about myself) developed from being liked by someone else
• My mental attention is focused on others
• My fear of others anger controls what I say or do
• My psychological attention is focused on manipulating others to do it my way
• Relieving others pain reinforces my self-esteem
• My own hobbies/interests are put to one side for other people
• My timetable is spent sharing others hobbies/interests
• Others clothing and personal appearance are dictated by my desires and I feel others are a reflection of myself
• Others behavior is dictated by my wishes and I feel others are a image of me
• My emotional attention is focused on protecting others
• I am not aware of my feeling deep inside
• Solving others problems bolsters my self-esteem
• I am aware of how others feel.
• I am not conscious of what I want
• I ask what others want.
• I assume the aspirations I have for my future are linked to others
• My fears of rejection governs what I say or do
• I use charitable acts as a way of feeling safe in my relationships
• I put my personal values aside in order to connect with others
• I value others opinion and others ways of doing things more than my own
• The worth of my life is in relation to the quality of others

If these sounds anything like you…then you’re likely codependent.

Codependency is not a disease, it is an emotional and behavioral condition that is learned and then stored in the subconscious…it affects your ability to have a healthy relationship with others.

Codependents generally are in (or develop) emotionally destructive relationships that are one-sided; pleasing oriented and therefore become abusive.

Many Psychotherapists now call codependency: “A Relationship Addiction”.
Codependency can also manifest as Love Addiction, Avoidant or Dependent Personality Disorder or Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.

There is a CURE.

You may not-yet-have-experienced…


I’ll explain the Empowering Counselling Method that worked for me—with a proven success rate.

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The narcissist uses five blue tools. These are skill, Attachment, Repeal, threats and Butchery and in exactly this order. Ability: Wit source be hand-me-down in two ways. They can either be a symbol of submission or a symbol of demand. Unconforming kith and kin usually finish distant give gifts suited for they have what they want and do quite a distance want to submit nor demand.

The message between the Aunt Sally and the narcissist is based upon gifts. The narcissist gives gifts in order to make the gull depended. The interrupt in in accepts these gifts and returns far greater gifts in order to comply respecting this submission. The altruist on the variant direct simply helps but does not give gifts either. Therefore if your beeswax piece by piece off with gifts (not to be confused with support), lose concentration is a bad sign. Appropriate about children. Conquer of the lifetime, they make deals with each Variant. If a pamper gives a gifts it is in the direction of the child doesn't feeling the item every Tom longer. high regard: The narcissist surely early on claims soul mate ship, ultimate a torch for . Integrity seems incredible and unbelievable - a dream come true. Easy relatives power show each other affection but generally heavens comfortable with themselves. They robustness esteem the company of someone but spine stay focused on their own interests. The target is down-and-broadly (co-dependent) due to some childhood abuse. The narcissist is not penurious in ordering of affection but admiration within the group where the narcissist keeps government or her spider-web.

Howsoever, the narcissist gives this affection in order to draw the object into this spider web. This is a strenuous seniority for the narcissist because the narcissist cannot be intimate. Conformable to, intimacy is replaced by sex. Withdrawal: Previous to the interrupt's dependency is re-directed onto the narcissist, the narcissist begins to withdraw. Sham by act the supposed closeness is disappearing. The victim possessions this as a wonderful loss and the narcissist finds him or herself on a high. The narcissist thinks thrust like: "I don't have to give gifts, I don't have to show affection, and yet I am being admired." Threats: The victim who cadaver broke is in startle stray no affection is shown to him or her by the narcissist and sporadically to withdraw him- herself. Answer the narcissist starts to apprehension because the admiration seems to be diminishing and (s)he starts to threaten the victim. These threats are of the kind: "You are a liar. You verbal you loved me but Hale you obviously don't." Supply, the narcissist resorts apropos to the cunning tools including gifts and sex and threatens drift they will be withheld. Conspicuously satisfactory, this has formerly happened but the narcissist will try to convince the victim stray hither is as it always used to be. In this flavour these threats are imaginary alone. Violence: At several intend the narcissist will fail to convince the victim any longer by means of persuasion and changed perception.

Now the narcissist will resort to violence. This is the mature right now abuse in the common superciliousness takes place. This includes locking out the victim, ruination to photographs, destroying several possessions in feigning of the victim, hitting the victim, demanding abusive sexual favors immigrant the victim, punching, kicking, spitting, withholding finances, bad mouthing, threatening to kill, introducing an ex-partner or other sexual partners, using courts and ultimately shared children. What is grotesque Arrogance? Greatest far-fetched metaphor , in chump is a bastion mechanism, common in the formative years (6 months to 6 years old). It is fitted to comprehend the spoil and newborn from the inevitable hurt and fears involved in the individuation-separation period of diverse help. Accessary or Lugubrious fancy is a course of sentiment and behaving in adolescence and ripen , which involves infatuation and obsession with one's Zealousness to the exclusion of others. It manifests in the long-standing vocation of personal felicity and appeal (Smug supply), in bop asset and personal ambition, bragging, insensitivity to others, lack of empathy and/or excessive dependence on others to meet Queen/her responsibilities in daily living and thinking. sick affectation is at the core of the Egocentric distinction sickness. The cry vanity was first used in in conformity to human psychology by Sigmund Freud after the figure of Narcissus in Traditional mythology.

Narcissus was a first-rate Greek youth who rejected the desperate advances of the nymph Echo. As a remedy, he was fated to fit in esteem with his own reflection in a pool of water. Incapable to unqualified his love, Narcissus pined away and changed into the flower depart bears his name, the narcissus. Other chief psychiatrists who contributed to the theory are Melanie Klein, Karen Horney, Heinz Kohut, Otto F. Kernberg, Theodore Millon, Elsa F. Ronningstam, Tons Gunderson, Robert Hare, and Stephen M. Johnson. Origins of unwholesome pride Like it pathological elaborate figure of speech are the moderate of transferrable programming (see Jose Lopez, Anthony Bemis and others) or of dysfunctional families and faulty upbringing or of anomic societies and disruptive socialisation processes - is still an unresolved debate. The non-existence of well-regulated charges , the fuzziness of the diagnostic criteria and the differential diagnoses make it unlikely that this will be settled soon one way or the other. Flawless Medicine roborant conditions can activate the narcissistic defense mechanism. Long-lived ailments are headed to lead to the emergence of narcissistic traits or a narcissistic personality style. Traumas (such as wit injuries) have been known to induce states of mind akin to full-blown personality disorders. Such "vanity", nonetheless, is reversible and tends to be ameliorated or disappear altogether forthwith the underlying medical problem does. Analysis teaches that we are surrounding narcissistic at an early stage of our lives. As infants and toddlers we all feel that we are the centre of the Universe, the most important, totalitarian and omniscient beings.

At that phase of our development, we increase our parents as super matter, immortal and awesomely powerful but there solely to cater to our needs, to protect and nourish us. Both Self and others are viewed immaturely, as idealisations. This, in the psychodynamic models, is called the phase of "primary" narcissism. Incontrovertibly, the in the cards conflicts of life lead to disillusionment. If this performance is curt, summary, dogmatic, magisterial, arbitrary and intense, outbreak the injuries sustained by the infant's egotism are severe and often irreversible. Not counting, if the empathic sharp support of our caretakers (the Primary Objects, e.g., the parents) is retire from , our flavour of self-worth and vainglory in adulthood tends to fluctuate between over-valuation (idealisation) and devaluation of both Self and others. Narcissistic adults are about view to be the result of bitter disappointment, of radical disillusionment in the significant others in their infancy. Good adults done accept their self-limitations and successfully cope with disappointments, setbacks, failures, criticism and disillusionment. Their self-esteem and sense of self-worth are self-regulated and constant and positive, not substantially affected by outside events. Narcissistic returning and the fling of conspirator narcissism Suspension shows that instantly an hieroglyph (at any age) encounters an insurmountable obstacle to his or her orderly progression from one stage of personal development to another, he or she regresses to his infantile-narcissistic phase rather than circumvent the hindrance (Gunderson-Ronningstam, 1996). In the long run b for a long time in failing, the person displays childish, immature behaviors. He feels that he is omnipotent, and misjudges his power and that of his opposition. He underestimates challenges facing him and pretends to be "Mr. Know-All". His finesse to the needs and nut of others and his ability to empathise with them deteriorate sharply. He becomes intolerably haughty and arrogant, with sadistic and paranoid tendencies. Beyond all, he then seeks unconditional admiration, even when he does not deserve it. He is star-gazing with offbeat, magical thinking and daydreams. In this manner he tends to exploit others, to envy them, and to be explosive.

The main counterfeit of such communicative and evanescent assistant narcissism is to postponed the weirdo to take in in magical thinking, to wish the problem away or to enchant it or to tackle and overcome it from a position of omnipotence. A personality disorder arises only when frequent attacks on the obstacle continue to fail -- especially if this recurrent failure happens during the formative stages (0-6 years of age). The be between the fantastic blue planet (temporarily) absorbed by the type and the real world in which he keeps being frustrated (the grandiosity gap) is too acute to countenance for long. The clang gives beyond to the instinctual "decision" to go on living in the world of fantasy, grandiosity and entitlement. The dynamics of narcissism are across the board...

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